We haven’t broken up but we’ve had so many breaks that at this point I have made peace with us never having the relationship we used to have. The first time we had a break was due to a misunderstanding which I wasn’t privy to. Stayed quiet for about two years. We worked hard to revive that relationship and had a good run. Then life happened again. Grief. Silence. Public disagreement. I was shocked and drew a line. But we’ve been friends for almost two decades. No one knows me

I'm a curious person and I had a friend who is now an acquaintance. We used to be so close. Her name was W (I think I'll just use her initials here). In Uni, nothing could separate us. Our dynamic was - she led and I followed. Looking back, I genuinely can say I was her lap dog. In Uni I wasn't exposed to life and I easily trusted anyone, especially her. We were so happy, I used to look at her and think - damn she had her life figured out while I'm just cruising. I loved her

That one person you have known all your life, survived the hood dramas, stayed besties, through high school and college crushes, stayed besties through career moves and hustle, stayed besties through marriage, raising kids. Until, bestie has issues with her marriage and everything starts to spiral. And that's just the beginning. I offered a shoulder to cry on, I offered the voice of reason between the troubled couple but one among them was done with the marriage. Healing kwa

I have recently discovered that I can't be friends with people I do not respect. As I turn 30 I have been auditing a lot of areas of my life and the current one I'm looking at right now is my friends. I really value my friendships actually more than any romantic connections and that's why the same standard if not higher should be applied to my friends as well. If i don't respect you as a person I need to drop you from my circle and keep you as an acquaintance.

I recently went through a breakup with a long term bf(4-6 years). Sounds crazy saying it out loud coz it feels like its been shorter and longer than that. And to say my world shifted is an understatement .. He was my first for a lot of things and things have been feeling so tumultuous ever since. I also lost my job right before we broke up and he had been my financial support for the longest time. So right now I'm navigating grief, a deep loss of stability and security and a

Hi. My name is Mumbi and welcome to my website. I started this blog to create a shared space to remind us that we're all in this together...(cue the high school musical song). But today, you're here to read my story. And specifically the story of why I ended up in this profession. I could start by telling you how I ended up studying psychology but that's a long story. Let me tell you my why. I vividly remember the day I made the decision. I was sat in a psych class and starte

Do you guys know what you're doing? In life that is? I assumed in your 20s you're supposed to at least have a clue, but I feel like I don't and I'm starting to panic. I'm working yes, I'm building relationships yes, but I don't know if I'm exactly on the path I'm supposed to be on. Do you guys even believe in that? Or am I overthinking? I wonder if there are people who feel like this, or if I'm alone? I feel like I'm going with the flow, but time is passing and I don't know i

I think being in a toxic relationship is such a canon event. Like you will never forget it and it really changes you. For me, it changed me for the better and for the worse. I was in that relationship for almost 6 years on and off.... whew, even thinking about it now, I don't think I realized I was in it for 6 years, my goodness. And when I say on and off, I really mean it. We would be on for like 8 months, then off for like a month or two. We met in school, when we were both