Hi. My name is Mumbi and welcome to my website. I started this blog to create a shared space to remind us that we're all in this together...(cue the high school musical song). But today, you're here to read my story. And specifically the story of why I ended up in this profession. I could start by telling you how I ended up studying psychology but that's a long story. Let me tell you my why. I vividly remember the day I made the decision. I was sat in a psych class and starte

Do you guys know what you're doing? In life that is? I assumed in your 20s you're supposed to at least have a clue, but I feel like I don't and I'm starting to panic. I'm working yes, I'm building relationships yes, but I don't know if I'm exactly on the path I'm supposed to be on. Do you guys even believe in that? Or am I overthinking? I wonder if there are people who feel like this, or if I'm alone? I feel like I'm going with the flow, but time is passing and I don't know i

I think being in a toxic relationship is such a canon event. Like you will never forget it and it really changes you. For me, it changed me for the better and for the worse. I was in that relationship for almost 6 years on and off.... whew, even thinking about it now, I don't think I realized I was in it for 6 years, my goodness. And when I say on and off, I really mean it. We would be on for like 8 months, then off for like a month or two. We met in school, when we were both

I think when you grow up knowing your parents didn't have the perfect marriage, or relationship, you kind of start carrying that embarrassment. Especially when you feel like people know what happened. I noticed I was carrying their shame when I would feel awkward around them. I couldn't stand being around them for longer than an hour. I felt like I was embarrassed being in their presence. And that's because I knew they were struggling through infidelity. And I know because on

I recently discovered that I have a few friends in my life that are low capacity people, specifically in the way they chose to see me. I'm easier to be digested as the mature one, the strong one and I get oversimplified a lot. And even when I point it out, it's dismissed and they choose to go with the version of me that is digestible. The issue with that is I feel erased and I don't want to exist in that dynamic anymore. So I'm choosing to see this as a capacity problem on th

I don't know how this will sound but I like being ordinary. Not in a “settling” kind of way. Not in a way that feels small or unfulfilled. But in a way that feels honest. I feel like we live in a time where everything feels like it has to be extraordinary. Where like if you’re not doing the most, showing the most, becoming the most… then you’re somehow behind. And I’ve felt that pressure. I’ve seen it. I understand it. But I don’t think that’s the life I want. I like my life

I'm in my early 30s and I don't really have friends. I have people I feel like I can talk to, but I feel like I don't have people I can do things with. And I don't know if it's just me because I always see people on social media hanging out with their friends on the weekends, going out to do things, and I really envy that. For context, I used to be in a group friendship. We were three girls and it was great in my early twenties, but the more we grew up, the more we disagreed

I felt I had to share this because sometimes things can feel so discouraging when you're in the thick of things. When you're worried about whether or not things will get better. Especially after reading last week's story. When I finished uni, I remember feeling so anxious about whether or not I would get a job. There were barely any jobs being advertised at the time. I was scared and worried about ending up being unemployed for years. It didn't help that people in my industry